Not so much of a design post today, but I wanted to reflect on this past weekend. It was my birthday on Friday. A highly uneventful day for the most part, as I’ve been dealing with some personal issues and just getting through the day is a struggle (no need to worry, I’m managing it well with professionals). However, I was pleasantly surprised, as my husband almost had to drag me out to dinner that night, that he had organized for our closest friends to be there with me to celebrate. The first time he has ever been able to pull off a surprise for me.
However, my struggles involved me needing to get as much rest as possible at the moment. So what was even better, was that this weekend, I had absolutely nothing to do, except a new client meeting in the late afternoon on Sunday. Plus, hubby was away for Saturday night for one of his hockey team’s weekend parties.
Just take a moment to think about this – if you are a parent. I had no time that I had to be up for, nothing to be anywhere for (because I had already planned that the girls would miss their activities as the stress would be too much for me), no plans at all. My girls can somewhat fend for themselves (and hubby even fed them Saturday before he left).
For the first time in months, I was relaxed, not rushing, not busy. And it felt great. I did school work because I wanted to and I could get ahead. I cleaned and rearranged our master bedroom. I had my best friend over with her kids, just because – not planned. It was honestly, the best weekend ever and I didn’t have to go anywhere or spend ANY money.
Funny how when life gets tough, its the small things that make all the difference. I can already feel the anxiety creeping back as Sunday draws to a close – not because of work, but because of back to school, schedules, appointments, classes, commutes, etc. I now realize, that for my general well-being and the sake of my family, weekends will need to be much lower key for us. I think this will allow us to enjoy the small amounts of time we have together rather than rushing because we are late or yelling because our patience is short.
I read an article on Huffington Post today that said busyness was a sickness. I highly recommend you read it as it resonated with me, especially with what I’m dealing with. We need to take time to be alone with our thoughts and ourselves to become better equipped to handle everyday and be better partners, parents and people in general. Keeping ourselves too busy to do that will only hurt us in the end.
So there you have it, wisdom from the new 33 year old on the block. Feel free to share if you have the same struggles, or take time to relax. I would love to hear from my readers if they face the same issues or have other ways of coping.
And again, read the article, it could save your sanity.
Thanks for reading today! I’m hoping to have some new design posts for you very soon.